I live in Las Vegas but…

Yes, I live in Las Vegas and I don’t gamble have only really gambled once and oh yeah, I don’t live on the strip either.

Isn’t it funny how when you tell someone where you live or where you work you get asked all of these crazy questions? I remember after I moved to Las Vegas in 1996, the first time I flew to see my parents in NC, a sweet older lady on the plane asked me “Don’t you just love the strip!?  I bet you’re one of those fancy showgirls!”  Um, no and no.  Actually, I worked off the strip as a legal secretary and had no interest in being on the strip. And still almost 20 years later I still don’t like to go to the strip that often.  My boyfriend and I will go for special occasions but it’s freaking stressful driving down there (thankfully he always drives!)!  Also, almost 20 years later I have only gambled for real once, and that was this past weekend…and it was at a local casino, NOT on the strip (Red Rock Casino)… The strip just isn’t the same as it used to be.  There’s a hell of lot more people, more people pushing their “CDs”, “preachers” standing on the corners yelling at everyone and then there are the grown adults dressed up as cartoon characters for money.  Yeah, no thanks.  Now don’t get me wrong, I love living in Las Vegas, I really do…but I love the outskirts, away from the strip.  I love that there are a lot of things to do with kids that don’t involve all of that chaos.

We go bowling, we have kids places for lots of fun, we have family Easter egg hunts, there’s the Lion Habitat, outdoor movies, we’re very patriotic, we have beautiful ponds and parks, and we have a lot of options for sports!  I wish people could see that side of Las Vegas more than the hustle and bustle of the strip.  With online gambling and gambling in almost every state now, this city really does have so much more to offer, because no, locals don’t live in the casinos!

BTW, I also work for the police department…no I’m not a police officer and no I can’t get you out of your speeding ticket.

 

Dumping isn’t just for romantic relationships…

Have you ever been dumped?  I mean by your best friend, not your boyfriend or girlfriend…   I was friends with a girl that I met at work for a long time, I would say just over 6 years.  We had one of those friendships that we could talk about anything, our dreams, our fears, bathroom issues, lol, childbirth, anything!  I threw 2 of her baby showers, I was there in the waiting room after her first 2 children were born, she was there to meet my daughter also.  We would share recipes, walk around Target together, hang out and just chat, go to the park…everything.

I loved our friendship, but truth be told I always felt like I valued our friendship more than she did.  I always told her she was my best friend, but I honestly don’t think she ever said the same.  And that was ok, it wasn’t something I needed, but looking back now I can see the differences.  I went through a divorce and I remember one of the first things she said to me was that her husband made it very clear to her that if she ever left he would fight to keep the kids.  I thought it was odd that he felt threatened.

We used to talk almost every day and then after a new relationship came to light for me, she drifted apart.  She would invite me to do things, but only when she knew I was working (at this point she stayed at home with her kids).  I wasn’t sure what that was about.   She was starting a new journey into accepting the Catholic religion, which I thought was great for her and never thought anything of it.

The time got further and further away from when we would speak and one day I received a text message telling me that we were too different, that she valued her morals and that we just grew apart.  And that was it.  It literally broke my heart.  Over 6 years of friendship…gone…in a text message.  I understood what she was saying and sent a message back  telling her how much she meant to me and that I would always be there for her.  I received one more text from her a few months later telling me that she saw my daughter recently and how big she had gotten.  I again told her that I missed her, thought about her often and hoped all was well.  That was the last time we spoke.

I deserved a lot more than a text message, but she didn’t think so and you know what, that’s ok. Like I said, our friendship meant more to me than it did to her.  I am grateful though, at least she said something, at least she didn’t just stop talking to me and left me wondering why and what happened.  I am also grateful that our children were young enough so that they weren’t hurt in the process.

I loved the friendship that we had and she was there for me in a lot of ways that I could never repay her for.  I still think about her a lot and hope she is doing well.  Thankfully I have a great circle of people in my life that I know are there for me no matter what, I hope she has that too.

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Dumping isn’t just for romantic relationships

Make exercise a habit

So you’re excited to start working out.  You just bought new workout clothes, new shoes, maybe some hand weights and a workout dvd. You’re excited to see how strong your beast mode is.   You get started and you’re on your 3rd day and you just stop.  All of a sudden you’re too tired, there’s no time, and you convince yourself that you’ll just start again this weekend or next Monday.

Here’s something to ask yourself.  Is it the workout?  Why did you pick that workout?  Was it recommended to you, did you do a blind search and just grab the first thing you saw?  Is it similar to a previous workout that you did?  Finding the right workout is the most important step after deciding that you’re going to start working out.  So what makes a great FOR YOU workout?

* The workout has fun music! Because honestly, who wants to work out to music that makes you want to go to sleep?

* The workout needs to give you the results that you are looking for without hurting you!  If you can barely get through a workout physically, then more than likely you’re not going to stick with it.  It’s like me with running…it may be great for others, but physically I am just not a runner!

* The trainer!  Yes!  It matters who the trainer or instructor is on the video!  If you are a Richard Simmons type of personality for a trainer then you don’t want a yoga teacher as your instructor.

Ok, so now that you have those 3 things to look out for, how do you create a habit of exercising?

First step – decide on a time of day that works best for you.  If you are a morning person, then working out after dinner isn’t going to be ideal and if you’re a night person, don’t even attempt getting up earlier to workout.  I love how awesome I feel after I work out, but I know better than to attempt to get up earlier in the morning to exercise…I am NOT a morning person!

Second step – Scenery!  If you don’t have a lot of space to workout in, make the space that you do have a spot that will make you want to work out.  If it’s on the patio, great, but think of how it’ll be working out there in the summer time.  If you are a gym person, make sure you belong to a gym that is close by.  There’s no worse motivator-killer than having to drive 30 minutes to go work out.  Make your spot nice, add a calming/motivating picture, make sure it’s not cluttered and that you have cushion for those floor exercises.

Third – Choosing the right workout.  Back to choosing what is best for you, also consider the following:  What makes you feel powerful? If you’re just starting out, don’t choose something that is high impact and 45 minutes long!  Start with power walking if you need to.  Always, ALWAYS ask your doctor or other professional physician what exercises would be good for you to start with.

Fourth – Focus on the real gratifications that come from developing a healthy exercise routine. What does exercising really do for you? A few positive things exercise does for you are:

  • makes you happier
  • gives you more energy
  • you become more creative
  • feeling more confident
  • you’re NICER!
  • you’ll feel accomplished
  • It’s a stress releaser

Remember it takes time, you’re body is going to need the time to adjust to this new routine and the fact that you’re finally taking care of it!  Once you follow these steps and learn to focus on the real reasons to exercise for, you’ll develop an exercising habit that you’ll love!  Then pretty soon your beast mode will turn epic!

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beast mode is getting stronger!

 

Follow your dreams!

“Ok, now I can focus!”  This was said to me a couple of times over the past 2 weeks, after a relationship ended.  It’s almost like when they were in the relationship, they were blinded by the negativity or forgot how to think for themselves.  I must admit, I’ve been there before and said those words too.  But why?  What is it about being in a relationship that keeps you from seeing what is going on? 

One of my friends even stated that now that the relationship was over they could now focus on themselves.  Again I ask, what is it about certain relationships that prevents a person from continuing to grow individually?  I understand that once we get into a serious relationship we turn away from certain things and put focus onto the relationship, as I think we should, to a certain degree.  But to give up your individual goals and dreams that you wholeheartedly desire, seems wrong to me.  It seems like if anyone is giving up such a huge piece of themselves in a relationship it will only lead to regret and resentment.  “I would be a CEO or Manager by now if I didn’t get married” or “I can finally go back to school now that this relationship is over”… <— that one was me…It took me 10 years before I finally went back to school to follow me dream.  Are you going to follow your dreams?

My thoughts are this:  there are plenty of opportunities to find your Mr. or Mrs. Right and still be able to follow your dreams!  Why are people (men and women) giving up such a huge part of themselves for a relationship that will most likely end with resentment and regret?    If you have certain goals prior to the start of a relationship, that should be discussed upfront.  In fact, your goals and desires should always be discussed in a relationship!  You should be making sure that you are with someone who is supportive of your dreams and make sure that you are willing to do the same.  It took a couple of trial and errors for me personally, but I finally found my rock and my #1 supporter.  Like I said it took me 10 years to finally go back to school, because I finally have a partner that supports me and wants me to succeed.  Make sure you have a true supporter and don’t settle for anything less! So tell me, are you going follow your dreams?

Follow your dreams and find your support team!
Follow your dreams!

I have had my fair share of weight issues and have battled with an eating disorder and general body image issues. Because of my extensive psychology education and my own experiences, I use this knowledge to help other women get the best results possible with a proper nutrition and fitness program. I understand the importance of discovering the underlying cause of health issues. I make sure that the program is tailored to them and their individual goals and needs. I have used what I’ve learned and the amazing support circle that I have around me to be able to get myself on the road to a better, safer and healthier life!

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On top of that I am a mom to a wonderful 7 year old daughter and step-mom to 5 amazing kids!  I love to share stories and tips related to mommyhood and love sharing my thoughts and opinions on products that I use for my family and I love sharing ideas on what to do for fun with the kids!

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I have an amazing boyfriend who supports me no matter how crazy my ideas are.  He’s helping me reach my dreams and I couldn’t do it without him!

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Oh!  Did I mention I’m also a softball coach to a group of wonder 5-7 year olds, including my daughter and step-daughter!

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I am doing this all to help moms like myself and moms-to-be! I want to help women to be able to support their families, doing something they LOVE and feel FULFILLED doing, while still having time to enjoy their lives!!

If you are willing to put in the hard work and time— you can accomplish ANYTHING you set your mind to and I’m here to remind you of that!

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Hello world!

Change is here!  My previous blog was a lot of fun for me, I had daily themes but it was beginning to be a little too…boring for me.  I thought about revamping the style to provide more value to everyone.  I recently became more involved in learning more about the blogging world.  I’m taking Erica House’s 0-60k ecourse which is packed with a ton of information and tips on how to get your blog up and running full speed!  I have been all about working my way to a life as a work-from-home mom and I am seeing myself getting closer each day.  I have 1 daughter and 5 amazing step kids…I have a lot of motivation to make this happen!  So I welcome you on this new journey.  I would love to hear from you and look forward to getting to know you all a lot more!

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